I think everyone wants to be able to find love in the traditional sense...meaning not in a bar or from online dating services. We all want to look across the room and catch that glimpse and say..."I will marry him/her!" Without having met! The love at first sight...I believe in that, an instant connection, being swept off my feet...meeting Mr. Right, riding off into the sunset! (Totally kidding)!
So, defeated in the traditional sense of dating, I joined an online dating service. There I am hung out like a piece of candy hoping that my picture, my summary of who I am and what I want is sufficient to bring another individual into my life. Its a mating process! This process is difficult and humbling as well. You wink or email, and sometimes you get the system generated "No Thanks" response, or just no response at all. Its funny because they give you all these suggestions on what to say in an email to that person to connect, and somehow...it doesn't seem to represent you or what you have to offer, BECAUSE your summary on your profile definitely doesn't sum up the quality person you truly are in the first place. And listen...I love to write, that's why I blog...But the truth of the matter is, no matter what I write, what the pictures reveal, seeing me and talking to me in person are hands down the best way to see who I really am. It is like an internship, hands on experience. We can all have a degree, but how do you land the job without diving into that type of work, your foot in the door with a little experience under your belt? My degree (online profile) doesn't truly reflect my capabilities! It shows some, but not all...so while all I have are the words to summarize me, and a couple of pictures...it doesn't reflect my infectious laugh or my tender touch. It does show my true love of my family and friends...nor my love of traditions, as those are things you need to see firsthand. You can’t see my creativity or feel my energy. You just see a smiling face on a good day. Unfortunately I think without human interaction, so much is lost in translation and in this case an online profile. But I'm being cautiously optimistic...I’ve meet a couple of great guys...and hopefully they will get to see the things that are not on paper that reflect who I really am. Wish me luck in finding my emergency contact! LOL.
